Adulting is a Thing. Embrace It.
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Let’s talk about #adulting. Children are asked from an early age what they want to be when they grow up. I’m about to shatter that question for you because it is the WRONG question. The right question is WHO do you want to be when you grow up.
I was an anxious child. All I wanted to be when I grew up was calm. I was too young to actually know the talents I possessed or where they would take me. I was, however, old enough to learn that being myself would not just be enough. It would be everything.
Growing Up as an Adult
It’s never too late to take your adulting skills to the next level!
So, you’re grown. You have a job, a career, a way to make ends meet. Think carefully about this next question. Are you WHO you want to be? At 40 years old, I realized I was not who I wanted to be. I wore a mask and behaved in ways that were contrary to my actual nature. I was acting. And, that is very different from LIVING.
Here’s the Good News!
You can take your life back at any moment.
I made a list of characteristics that I disliked about myself. It was a LONG list. I picked the one I felt caused me the most harm. Dishonesty.
While I was focusing on what I wanted to be when I grew up, I never learned how to communicate my feelings to others. As a result, when my feelings were hurt, I grew resentful, angry, and indignant. All I had to do was change that one flaw by having the courage to share my feelings with the people that MATTER. I don’t need to be an open book to the world; but, in relationships that I value, honesty is the golden rule. It also works amazingly well by weeding out the people who actually don’t matter. Hint: The people who do matter WILL respect your feelings.
Growing Up is Painful
Staying stuck is worse.
Changing old habits is uncomfortable. An unfortunate truth about adulting is that it’s not for sissies. It isn’t easy or fun. That’s why it’s called adulting. Discomfort is OK! It’s GREAT to be uncomfortable because it means you’re growing. Three cheers for personal growth!
Ride through the discomfort. Breaking an old habit isn’t easy, but the pain is actually short-term compared to the lifelong benefits of adopting a new, healthy one.
But Wait, There’s More
As you become who you want to be, your self-esteem soars!
That’s right, kids. Growing into who you want be is empowering. You will stand taller. Your load will lighten. Your skin will fit better, and your soul will relax.
If that isn’t motivation to stop behaving in ways that aren’t congruent with your soul, I don’t know what is.
Don’t stop at changing one thing (unless you’re perfect). Once you’ve made the first change, the earth’s axis will spin, and you’ll want to change more. Because there is nothing more beautiful than refusing to the let the world define you.
YOU DEFINE YOU!